I have been extremely harsh on myself these past few weeks in everything I do. I want to be a good stepsister to my younger brother, Keegan, but at times can get so irritated with him. I want to be a good stepdaughter to my Mom, but I end up condemning myself each time I do something stupid in the house or when I forget to wash the dishes or I make a mean comment. And the more I try and be good, the more my behaviour is the opposite and I look selfish.
What I realised is that I was starting to find my identity in being a stepdaughter, being good at crossfit, being a good daughter to my worldly Father, being good at this and that, but as soon as I “failed” I would condemn myself so much and just end up getting angry and treating the people I love even worse.
The Lord placed on my heart that your identity doesn’t lie in all these things; it doesn’t lie in being an intern, it doesn’t lie in being a future wife, because all of these things are temporary. The only constant that will never change and that cannot be taken away, is being a Daughter of God.
When Jesus died on the cross the veil was torn and nothing now separates us from having a relationship with God. An adopted relationship where we can go to God and see Him as Abba (Ephesians 1:5). We are righteous not because of what we did or what we are going to do, but because of what Jesus did for us. God has set you up for victory, because you can’t fail in being righteous, because it isn’t dependant on you or your actions.
The day you believed in your heart and proclaimed with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, you were saved and became a Daughter, a Son of God (Romans 10:9).
The more you believe it, the more you start acting like it – right believing leads to right living.
My identity is not in what I do, or what I don’t do or even in what other people think of me. My identity lies in being a Daughter of the Most High. In the one place, the One Person, in whom it is impossible to fail. The one area that is not dependant on me or my efforts, but it is fully dependant on God’s grace, His unending favor upon me.. I am a Daughter.